Eric Scalise
Dr. Eric Scalise
Eric Scalise, PhD, currently serves as President and Chief Strategy Officer (CSO) with Hope for the Heart and is also the President of LIV Consulting, LLC. He is the former Senior Vice President for the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) and former Department Chair for Counseling Programs at Regent University in Virginia Beach, Virginia.
Dr. Scalise earned his doctorate in Organizational Leadership, is a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and a Credentialed Master Life Coach with 44 years of clinical and professional experience in the mental health field. He served six years on the Virginia Board of Counseling under two governors. Specialty areas include professional/pastoral stress and burnout, combat trauma and PTS/PTSD, marriage and family issues, grief and loss, addictions and recovery, leadership development, and lay counselor training.
As the son of a diplomat, Dr. Scalise was born in Nicosia, Cyprus, and has also lived and traveled extensively around the world. He is a published author (Addictions and Recovery Counseling and Lay Counseling: Equipping Christians for a Helping Ministry), adjunct professor at several universities, conference speaker, and frequently consults with organizations, clinicians, ministry leaders, and churches on a variety of issues.
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From Mourning to Morning: Dealing with Grief and Loss
Article Summary “From Mourning to Morning: Dealing with Grief and Loss” offers biblical comfort and practical insight for those grieving the tragic flooding along the Guadalupe River. Grief is a normal response to deep loss and often brings sorrow, confusion, questions, and even fear. The article reminds readers that Jesus Himself is familiar with suffering and walks with us through our darkest moments, offering mercy and grace. Though grief can tempt us to withdraw, healing often comes through God’s love expressed in Scripture, the Holy Spirit, and supportive community. Weeping may last for a night, yet God promises that joy will come in the morning, turning mourning into comfort and renewed hope. By Dr. Eric Scalise What a difficult and painful weekend for our country, for those who live in Texas, and especially for the dozens of families who have lost loved ones in the catastrophic flooding that took place along the Guadalupe River. In times such as this, it’s hard to wrap our minds, hearts, and spirits around the tragedy … trying to make sense out of everything and put the pieces together for lives that now feel utterly shattered. The heart cries out like the psalmist: “Be merciful to me, Lord, for I am in distress; my eyes grow weak with sorrow, my soul and body with grief. My life is consumed by anguish and my years by groaning; my strength fails because of my affliction, and my bones grow weak” (Psalm 31:9–10). What Is Grief? In these moments of tragedy and loss, grief rises to the surface – and that's normal. We feel grief whenever there is a loss of a relationship or some other object of our affection. Even if we aren’t personally connected to those lost in the floods, our hearts ache with compassion for our neighbors we see going through such unimaginable loss. We see their pain, and it touches something deep within us. Grieving is the activity of facing the pain of loss, however close or far it may be from our own lives. It’s a response that can carry sorrow, anger, loneliness, depression, and even physical symptoms. And walking through it – not just out of it – takes enormous courage. The process isn’t about quickly escaping the pain – it’s about staying present in it long enough for God to begin His healing work. Wrestling with God in the Darkness As we sit with our grief, the questions naturally come. The pain can feel crushing. Sleep becomes fitful. Questions constantly intrude into our waking hours. There are rarely easy answers to events that seem so tragic and sudden. These are “Gethsemane moments” where we may feel alone, wrestling with God and pleading with Him, “Lord, please not this!” The most human of all questions is simply, “Why?” Why me? Why us? Why now? Unfortunately, we don’t always find satisfying answers – at least not right away – that offer any immediate measure of relief. But we’re not alone in asking them. Jesus Himself cried out in agony on the cross, pleading with His Father to answer a “why” question, only to be met with apparent silence in return. Scripture describes our Savior as “a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief” (Isaiah 53:3 NLT). A Savior Who Understands And here’s where our hope begins to grow: Jesus knows our pain. He knows our grief. He walks with us through it and gives us grace in our time of need. The Bible says, “We do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need” (Hebrews 4:15–16). Jesus understands our sorrow. In our grief, He is near. The Fear That Follows Loss Still, even with this assurance, grief has a way of stirring up fear. While grief, loss, and suffering are universal, how we each face them is personal and unique. In his book, The Problem of Pain , C.S. Lewis commented that, “God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pain. It is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world.” The dark night of the soul can be overwhelming and consume our will to endure the emotional storm. In that lonely place, fear can gain a foothold in our lives – fear of what lies ahead, fear of how life might change, or simply fear of the unknown. In our fear, we may feel tempted to isolate ourselves in self-protection, to withdraw from life altogether, to live in a form of emotional exile, never being able to experience the potential joy – and healing – God has for us. The Healing Power of Love and Community But the very thing that feels most vulnerable in grief is also what makes us most human: love. This is the paradox of grief: We grieve because we love. And the fact remains that sometimes, love hurts. But love also heals. In our grief and pain, God’s love comes to us through His Spirit, through His Word, and through His people. We’re not meant to walk through our grief alone. God has ordained His body, the Church, to be a healing community, for those whose burdens are too much to bear alone. Together, we can shoulder the burden. We can pray with and for one another, offer tangible help where needed, and sometimes just sit beside a grieving friend in silence. These moments may not fix the pain, but they speak powerfully of God's presence. As we do this, we see the pieces of a broken world slowly knit back together again into a tapestry that proclaims God’s restorative compassion and care. From Night to Morning Many of us have our own testimony of God’s faithfulness … of bringing beauty from the ashes, of resurrecting life out of tragedy and heartbreak. Our prayer for those grieving is that the Lord will meet you in your grief and comfort you with His presence. The psalmist reminds us that, “weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning” (Psalm 30:5). He is the God who meets us in the night – and leads us toward the hope of a new morning. May His promise be a comfort to you today … “I will turn their mourning into joy and will comfort them and give them joy for their sorrow” (Jeremiah 31:13). For helpful resources on grief, see below: Hope Talks podcast episode on Grief Blog – How Jesus Helps Us in Our Grief Blog – Where Is God in Our Grief? Books, Video Courses, and more on Grief
Ambassadors of Reconciliation: A High Calling
Article Summary This article explores the biblical calling to be “ambassadors of reconciliation,” representing Christ through our words, actions, and relationships. Drawing from personal experiences in diplomacy and international ministry, Dr. Eric Scalise explains how believers are chosen, entrusted, and sent by God to bring His message of hope and reconciliation to the world. With biblical insights, he highlights the qualities of faithful ambassadors—including trustworthiness, integrity, and humility—and challenges Christians to see every interaction as an opportunity to represent God’s kingdom. Ultimately, the article encourages believers to live as salt and light, faithfully carrying out Christ’s mission wherever He sends us. By Dr. Eric Scalise President, Hope for the Heart The Son of a Diplomat I was born in Nicosia, Cyprus – and I grew up overseas. On any given day, half my heart is in another country. As the son of a highly-placed diplomat and intel asset within the U.S. State Department, I was afforded a wonderful introduction to the rich tapestry of cultural and ethnic diversity across the globe. Serendipitously, my father’s first embassy was in Tehran. After Cyprus, I also lived in Singapore, Bolivia, Germany, and Iceland. Since coming to faith, I have been around the world multiple times doing a variety of ministry activities from training counselors, teaching at universities, and equipping pastors and ministry leaders… even smuggling Bibles into closed countries. The World Is at Our Doorstep During my undergraduate years at the College of William & Mary, I worked for the Dean of Students and helped organize a host family program for our foreign students. According to the Institute of International Education, about six percent of all U.S. students (1.2 million) herald from other countries. The largest contingencies are from India, China, South Korea, Canada, and Vietnam. These students represent the top 1-3% of their nation’s brightest, most gifted, and highly connected future leaders. Beyond the campus environment, reports by the Bureau of Labor Statistics show that foreign-born workers now compose over 19% of the American workforce (roughly 31 million people), with half being Hispanic and about one quarter, Asian. It’s as if the Lord is bringing the world to our doorstep. Ambassadors of Reconciliation In 1 Corinthians 5:18-20, Paul made an interesting observation when he said God, “ … gave us the ministry of reconciliation … [and] We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us ” The title of ambassador is actually derived from a Celtic word that means, “servant” and was first applied in this manner by Charles V in the middle of the 16 th century. Another term used years ago defined the person as a plenipotentiary , or one who is, “a diplomatic agent vested with full power to transact business.” You and I are no different. All authority in heaven and on the earth was given to Christ (Matthew 28:18), and He has entrusted it with us so that we may transact His business. Do you see yourself as God’s ambassador? To family members and loved ones? To spouses and children? Coworkers, friends, and neighbors? To those who need to experience salvation and reconciliation? Have you ever considered that the Lord actually wants to make His appeal to others through you? Being an ambassador is more than a title – it is a calling that shapes the way we live, serve, and relate to others. Just as earthly ambassadors are expected to reflect the values and priorities of the nation they represent, Christ’s ambassadors are called to reflect His character. The following characteristics provide a helpful portrait of what it means to serve as an ambassador for Christ. Ambassadors are Chosen Scripture affirms this truth, “ You are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light ” (1 Peter 2:9). It is the prerogative of any president, ruler, prime minister, king or queen to handpick their ambassadors. An ambassador is often referred to as the “Chief of Mission” in another country’s capital for the purpose of establishing diplomatic ties. Now, we have this amazing opportunity to be the Chief of His Mission. The “choosing” comes as an outgrowth of the relationship between the ambassador and the one whom he or she serves. Similarly, as Christian ambassadors, our commission from the Lord flows from a relationship with Him. We did not choose God, but He chose us (John 15:16). We have been handpicked and He made us a kingdom of priests and rulers, so we should likewise, “ be all the more diligent to make certain His calling and choosing ” (2 Peter 1:10 NASB). Ambassadors are Faithful When it comes to showing honor toward a sovereign leader, ambassadors are known for their loyalty and fidelity, a quality that has typically been demonstrated over a period of time. Faithfulness also matters to God, and He knows, “ The one who is faithful in a very little thing is also faithful in much ” (Luke 16:10 NASB). God encourages His ambassadors to take steps of faith so they can be given greater responsibility in kingdom work. Solomon understood this principle when he wrote, “ a faithful envoy [another word for ambassador] brings healing ” (Proverbs 13:17 CEV). The privilege of bringing a spirit of reconciliation to others in the name of Christ is often given to those who have first been faithful in the little things. Ambassadors are Trustworthy Another way of articulating this trait is to say that an ambassador is worthy of trust. This implies reliability, honesty, and dependability. Trust, like faithfulness, is also an earned commodity, and a trait that is developed and proven over time. For ambassadors who primarily do their work apart from the one who appointed them, they must have the implicit trust and confidence of their president, prime minister, king, etc. In 1 Corinthians 4:2 (NASB) Paul indicates, “ It is required of stewards that one be found trustworthy .” Ambassadors are Entrusted Ambassadors are given a mission and have a clear understanding they are not supposed to represent their own worldviews, ideas, initiative, plans, or philosophies, but those of their king, ruler or president. The same holds true for us: “ But just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not as pleasing men but God, who examines our hearts ” (1 Thessalonians 2:4 ESV). Our mission is the gospel, to faithfully represent the kingdom and principles of a sovereign God. Our words and actions at home, the workplace, in school or church, and where we live, all matter greatly. Ambassadors are Dignified Ambassadors are typically viewed as very dignified and stately individuals of high integrity and moral character. This implies they have the willingness, ability, and humility to “rise and walk above the fray” by not allowing the self-serving desires or the ambitions of others to deter them from their sense of mission. Our conduct and demeanor can make a significant difference in an outcome. Therefore, “ In all things show yourself to be an example of good deeds, with purity in doctrine, dignified , sound in speech which is beyond reproach ” (Titus 2:7-8 NASB). Ambassadors are Sent Out Finally, ambassadors are commissioned to go somewhere and represent their nation and its leaders. The Lord modeled this reality when He, “. . . had called the Twelve together, he gave them power and authority to drive out all demons and to cure diseases, and he sent them out to proclaim the kingdom of God and to heal the sick ” (Luke 9:1-2). Just as Jesus was sent into the world, so He now sends us. Some to our families, some to our schools or places of work, some to our local neighborhoods and communities, some to positions in government or industry, and some, like ships that set sail, to foreign lands with different cultures and peoples. Salt and Light Everywhere an ambassador goes in the world, every place they step foot, is considered to be the sovereign territory of the country from whence they came. As Christians and leaders, everywhere we set foot – as salt and light – becomes space and time belonging to God Himself. He grants authority to us as believers and this authority is always greater and more effective than the exploitation of power. Though diplomats living in other nations are usually afforded diplomatic immunity, this should never become a license for wrongful behavior or attitudes. We too must be mindful of this principle, though spiritually we are under grace and not the law. Otherwise, our diplomatic immunity (the authority to overcome evil with good), becomes diplomatic impunity (spiritual pride and arrogance). By God’s grace, may we hold this honor in high esteem at all times. Remember, part of God’s plan is that He is making His “appeal” to others through us, through our words and actions, and more often than not, through the transformative power of authentic relationships.
When Silence Speaks: Navigating Loneliness in a Busy World
Article Summary In a world of constant noise and digital connection, loneliness has become a growing personal and public health crisis. This article explores how loneliness is not defined by the number of people around us, but by a perceived lack of meaningful connection. Drawing from scientific research and biblical truth, it highlights the physical, emotional, and spiritual impact of isolation while affirming that we were created for relationship—with God and with one another. Through Scripture, we see that God is not merely for us, but with us, offering presence, belonging, and hope. It invites readers to pursue authentic community through Hope for the Heart's events, and reminds us that healing from loneliness begins with relational connection. By Dr. Eric Scalise President, Hope for the Heart What are your thoughts as we enter a new year? Your hopes? Your dreams? Renewed commitments, resolutions, or focus? Triggered by the Covid-19 pandemic in 2020, the answer for many may feel empty and somewhat void … staring blankly at a decision to either fight against or succumb to a pervasive sense of loneliness. Without a doubt, we are the most technologically connected society in all of history. Just ask Siri, Alexa, Copilot, Bixby, Otter.ai, ChatGPT, or a host of other available voice assistants. And yet, in a myriad of ways, we are also more relationally disconnected than ever before … pushing against the very nature of our Creator. What Is Loneliness? Loneliness can mean different things to different people. Rather than something firm or tangible, it is a subjective feeling of distress that often surfaces when you feel as if there is a chasm between your desired and actual relationships. This includes emotional closeness, a sense of belonging, or feeling understood and supported by others. Loneliness is more about perception and not really the number of people a person interacts with on a daily or weekly basis. In that regard, someone can be socially limited, but not necessarily lonely, and conversely, someone can be surrounded by people and still feel lonely. What Does the Science Have to Say? Numerous studies have shown the connection between loneliness and its impact on public health, including our physical and mental health. According to a recent Gallup National Health and Wellbeing Index , due to the extended social isolation many experience, 17% of U.S. adults (44 million) now wrestle with loneliness. The number rises to nearly 60% for young adults between 18-24. In 2024, U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy issued a national advisory where he identified loneliness as a “public health epidemic,” drawing links to heart disease, dementia, and other mental health disorders. The World Health Organization (WHO) stated that nearly one in six people around the globe report feeling lonely, and in a similar manner, they linked social isolation and disconnection to increased mortality rates. These findings from WHO were further supported by research conducted at the University of Cambridge . Dr. Barbara Sahakian, one of the co-authors of the study, identified nearly 200 different proteins in the bloodstream where increased loneliness and social isolation negatively impacted the immune system, and then manifested as increased inflammation, antiviral responses, cardiovascular problems, Type 2 diabetes, and strokes. Created for Relationship As the creation story unfolds in Genesis 1:1-24, we see God, much like a master artisan, speaking the world into being and breathing life into everything. In verse 25, He declares that His creation was good . To complete His perfect design, He then said, “ Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness .” (Genesis 1:26). Here, we see God referring to His Triune nature, the perfect example of the perfect relationship in perfect harmony. At the end of the sixth day, again much like an artist standing back to look at and examine His work, “ God saw all that he had made, and it was very good ” (vs. 31). We see a progression from good to very good, but there’s more to the story. After He rested on the seventh day, God takes Adam and puts him in the Garden of Eden (Genesis 2:15). But something is not yet complete. In verse 18, God says, “ It is not good for the man to be alone .” The truth is we were created with the need for God, but equally so with the need for human connection – in, through, and for relationship. In John 10:14-15 Jesus says, “ I am the good shepherd; I know my sheep and my sheep know me – just as the Father knows me and I know the Father .” In all four instances where the word “know” appears, the Greek word ginosko is used. While it can signify the idea of “coming to know,” the broader understanding implies a personal and relational experience between two or more persons. When Jesus chastised the pharisees in Matthew 23, He was speaking to this reality and their utter lack of relational awareness and vision. They knew the Law, but they did not ginosko the God of the Law. For You or With You? We just celebrated the Lord’s birth and His physical arrival to the Earth in the form of a baby. In His lifetime, Jesus certainly did many things for those He came to serve. He gave us the good news of the gospel. He healed people, fed them, delivered them, raised some from the dead, washed feet, and above all, He died for us and for our sins, individually and corporately. Indeed, the Scripture teaches us, “ My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus ” (Philippians 4:19), and, “ If God is for you, then who can be against you ” (Romans 8:31). Nevertheless, the prophets did not foretell the coming of Messiah as “God for us.” Instead, Scripture tells us, “ They shall call his name Immanuel, which means, God with us ” (Matthew 1:23). And it comes with a promise of certainty and permanence for those who know Him: “ He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you ” (Deuteronomy 31:8); “ Behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age ” (Matthew 28:20). Our God is a with God! Hope for the Heart and 2026 We feel incredibly blessed to steward some of the most amazing resources available in the field of Christian care and counseling, resources that offer biblical hope and practical help through the Keys for Living Library . However, one of our core themes in this coming year is community . We want to engage with people relationally and help meet the growing crisis of isolation, loneliness, and relational disconnection that is so prevalent today. Community is one of the most important distinctives in our life coaching network, the International Christian Coaching Institute (ICCI). Community is front and center in our Called to Care Symposium and our annual three-day Hope Together Conference -- gatherings of like-minded servant leaders who are bringing hope, sharing hope, and speaking hope – and doing it together in community. Won’t you join us! If you have been longing for genuine and authentic connection, the door is open, the lights are on, and the invitation is standing. Let’s make 2026 a With Year and write the story together! Learn more and sign up for Called to Care Learn more and sign up for Hope Together
God’s Got This: Perfect Peace in a Restless World
Article Summary In a world filled with uncertainty, anxiety, and constant noise, worry has become a common struggle. This article explores the difference between worry and faith, highlighting how fear often stems from a desire to control the uncontrollable. Drawing from Scripture and real-life experiences, it emphasizes that while life’s storms are inevitable, God offers a deeper peace that transcends circumstances. By shifting focus from “what if” to trust in God’s sovereignty, believers can release anxiety and embrace His presence. True peace is found not in control, but in surrender—resting in the assurance that God is always present and faithful. By Dr. Eric Scalise President, Hope for the Heart Turn on the TV, radio, a podcast, or tap your favorite social media app, and your senses are often bombarded by a multitude of sights and sounds, shocking events and powerful emotion. Life is full of unpredictable, and at times, undesirable, moments. Human nature often responds with an anxious heart, full of worry. Storms happen. And nowhere in Scripture does it say we will be immune from the storms of life. In fact, Jesus stated just the opposite, “ In the world you will have tribulation .” Yet, bookending this reality are also His words of comfort and assurance: “ I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace . . . But take heart; I have overcome the world ” (John 16:33 ESV). You Can’t Control Everything The Rev. Billy Graham once said, “ Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday .” As I sit down to write these words, once again, we find ourselves a nation at war. Though distant in thought and thousands of miles away for some, it can feel as close as the next heartbeat for many others who have loved ones in the line of duty and harm’s way. My wife and I remember the day quite well. Our twin sons came home from high school one afternoon—only a couple of months before graduation—and announced they had decided to enter the United States Marine Corps. The terrorist attacks of September 11 were still fresh in our nation’s psyche and military operations were already underway in both Afghanistan and Iraq. As parents, we had visions of college and “safe” jobs with a future. When I sat down with them, I wanted to make sure they clearly understood the inherent risks associated with their decision (i.e., a parental lecture), including awareness that Marines in particular, are usually the first to go into any combat environment. One of my sons looked at me and calmly said, “ Dad, how do you know that God might not be asking me to die for my country? ” End of conversation and now, after multiple deployments, we dialogue with the Lord on our knees. The best place to take our cares and concerns, our worrisome and anxious thoughts, is to the One who is Sovereign over all things at all times and in all ways. During the angst of the Civil War, when the very fabric of our country was being ripped and torn apart, Abraham Lincoln confessed, “ I have been driven many times upon my knees by the overwhelming conviction that I had nowhere else to go. My own wisdom and that of all about me seemed insufficient for the day.” The Lay of the Land The American Psychiatric Association reported in 2022 that anywhere between 50-70% of the national population feels anxious and struggles with worry over any number of issues. And according to a recent Harvard Institute Study, 47% of Americans feel a pervasive sense of hopelessness as they consider both their present and future status in life. Research by the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) reveals that almost 50% of Americans display symptoms of anxiety, with over 19% of adults (40+ million people) having a diagnosable disorder (the most prevalent in the U.S.). Across one’s lifespan, the number jumps to nearly a third of the entire population. Sobering. What is Worry? At its core, worry is a mental and emotional state characterized by persistent thoughts of concern, anxiety, or unease about potential problems or uncertain outcomes. It is future-focused (“what if” scenarios), emotionally draining (tension and anxiety), repetitive (obsessive and intrusive thoughts), and control-seeking (trying to manage or predict what will happen). Worry frequently leaves someone stuck in fear and angst. Healthy concern, on the other hand, can be constructive, leading to protective or helpful action. The Worry Struggle From a biblical standpoint, worry is often seen as a struggle between fear and trust – shifting away from God’s provision and moving toward uncertainty. We fear the loss of control, approval, security, and more. Yet, faith anchors our identity in Christ, not our circumstances. The Hebrew words for worry in the Old Testament focus on a heavy heart , and the Greek words in the New Testament speak to a divided mind . Consider the following comparisons. Worry competes with trusting God, but faith invites the shift from “What if?” to “Even if.” Proverbs 3:5 says, “ Trust in the LORD with all your heart. ” Worry tries to control the uncontrollable, but faith rests in the assurance that God is sovereign over all. Psalm 46:1 says, “ God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. ” Worry drains us and rarely solves problems, but faith brings peace and perspective. “ Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? ” (Matthew 6:27) Worry makes one want to quit and give up, but faith asks us to surrender to God. “ Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you. ” (1 Peter 5:7) Worry directs us to focus on our feelings, but faith directs us to focus on the truth. “ Whatever is true… noble… right… think about such things. ” (Philippians 4:8) Worry lives in the future, but faith lives in the grace of today. “ Do not worry about tomorrow… each day has enough trouble of its own. ” (Matthew 6:34) God’s Perfect Peace I had the blessing of knowing Corrie Ten Boom personally and was in her home just a week before she passed into heaven on her 90 th birthday. She often spoke about her time in a Nazi concentration camp during World War II where she lost both her father and her sister, as well as wrestling with anxiousness and fear. In learning to survive one day at a time, God gave her this insight: “ Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength .” She learned this lesson as a young girl, and in a moment of fear and worry, her father asked, “ When do I give you the ticket for the train to Amsterdam? ” Her reply, “ Just before we get on .” He then explained that God will always provide the strength and grace in the same way – not in advance, but exactly when it is needed. In the midst of your worry, it’s hard to find peace in the storm. But, when you find yourself knotted up, trying to control, and lacking hope, try to simply pause. Then, right where you are, lean into the disciplines of silence, solitude, and stillness. “ Be still and know that I am God ” (Psalm 46:10). You’ll find Him there, and in the quiet, you may also find you have new eyes to see clearly that, “God’s got this.” More Helpful Resources Free download on Worry Podcast Episode on Worry Blog: Do Not Worry – 10 Promises of Peace
Finding Hope in Despair
Article Summary “Finding Hope in Despair” addresses the shock and grief surrounding recent acts of violence, including the assassination of Charlie Kirk, the murder of a Ukrainian refugee, and national remembrance of 9/11. Dr. Eric Scalise reminds readers that evil cannot always be explained logically and that despair often raises questions about God’s presence and protection. Scripture shows that even in overwhelming tragedy, God remains sovereign, ever present, and able to calm the storm both around us and within us. Believers are called to confront evil with good, anchor their hope in God’s promises, and remember that eternal life is secure through Christ. Though we grieve, we hold to the truth that God will one day make all things new, wipe every tear, and bring perfect peace. This is where lasting hope is found in the midst of despair. By Dr. Eric Scalise, President of Hope for the Heart Yet again, our nation is reeling over the senseless and tragic loss of life. Many are devastated at the news of Charlie Kirk, a conservative Christian voice and founder of Turning Point USA, who was brutally assassinated while speaking on the campus of Utah Valley University. As tributes and commentary pour in from around the world, this heinous act comes on the heels of another violent killing a little over two weeks ago that took the life of a young female refugee from Ukraine as she sat on a commuter train in Charlotte, North Carolina. And beyond all this, the country is also being asked to remember the fallen and the horror that took place on 9/11 where thousands died in the single largest terrorist attack ever to take place on American soil. How Should We Respond? Sometimes the most extraordinary evil takes place at the hands of the most ordinary people. One cannot simply apply logic or reason to evil birthed from the very pit of hell and by an enemy who comes to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). King David understood despair, the profound and overwhelming sense of utter hopelessness that follows events that seem so incomprehensible . . . events that fuel the belief there are no good outcomes … and are often followed by fear, anxiousness, and a growing sense of helplessness. His words almost seem prophetic today: “My soul waits in silence for God alone; from Him comes my salvation. He alone is my rock and my salvation, my stronghold; I will not be greatly shaken. How long will you attack a man, that you might murder him, all of you, like a leaning wall, like a tottering fence?” (Psalm 62:1-3 NASB). At times, silence, at least in the moment, is appropriate, though human nature often tries to fill the uncomfortable void with words. Is God in Control? Sometimes there are no words, only questions. They cascade one after the other. Lord, how can this be? Why didn’t you protect Charlie? When will the next bad thing happen? Are we safe? God, is everything going to be okay? This wouldn’t be the first time people have wondered if Jesus was asleep in their most desperate hour of need. After speaking to a large crowd by the Sea of Galilee, He and His disciples crossed over to the other side. In the middle of a storm that blew in and with the boat taking on water, the disciples panicked while Jesus slept. After waking Him, they said, “Do you not care that we are perishing?” (Mark 4:38 NASB). That may be a question on many minds today. Jesus rebuked the wind and said to the sea, “Peace, be still” (v. 39). Perhaps it was for the raging storm in their hearts as well. We need these words right now. We need His words. God’s Sovereignty Did God know about Charlie Kirk, Iryna Zarutska, the heartbreak of 9/11 before they happened? Yes! Does He still love and care for us? Yes! Is He still sovereign over all? Yes! This tragedy reminds us that our battles are not all “flesh and blood” but “against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms” (Ephesians 6:12). Storms will come, but He is the Lord of the storm, and the winds and the waves must listen to Him. David understood this when he said, “Where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth … he who watches over you will not slumber” (Psalm 121:2–3). How do we overcome evil? We overcome evil with good (Romans 12:21). The world is watching as our faith and trust are being tested. May God give us the grace we need and the words to say to help quiet the storm. For surely, He will never leave us or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). A Promise For those of us who are Christ followers, yes, we should mourn, and we should grieve. We should also pray for the loved ones and others who are most impacted and devastated over the loss. Yet, we can speak to our own soul as well. “Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God” (Psalm 42:11). We have the hope of eternal life, and this is something to hold dearly. Charlie Kirk understood this. Just four days before he was killed, Charlie posted, “Jesus defeated death so you can live.” 1 Listen to his own confession: “We as Christians have hope that we are going to see our loved ones again and that we will be in heaven and that we will be in perfect peace and that this is not it. In fact, there's something even better awaiting us.” 2 He understood God’s promise, that there will be a new heaven and a new earth, and “His dwelling place is now among the people, and He will dwell with [us]. [We] will be His people, and God Himself will be with [us] and be [our] God. He will wipe every tear from [our] eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away. He who was seated on the throne said, ‘I am making everything new!’ Then He said, ‘Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true’” (Revelation 21:3–5). This is where we find hope in the midst of despair. Helpful Resources Podcast episode: Surviving 9/11 - Darin Kinder’s Story of Faith, Courage & Rescue Free Resource on Grief Blog - Talking to Your Child about Grief, Loss, and Tragedy Blog - How Jesus Helps Us in Our Grief Blog - What is Trauma? ------------------------------- Charlie Kirk (@charliekirk11) on X, Sept. 6, 2025. https://x.com/charliekirk11/status/1964469113352573401 Fox News, “Charlie Kirk was proud champion of Christianity on campuses nationwide: ‘I’m nothing without Jesus,’” Sept. 11, 2025. https://www.foxnews.com/media/charlie-kirk-championed-christianity-campuses-nationwide-im-nothing-without-jesus
The Eyes of Christ: How Jesus Sees People Differently
Article Summary “The Eyes of Christ: How Jesus Sees People Differently” uses a powerful poem by Dr. Eric Scalise to contrast how the world judges people outwardly while Jesus sees their true condition and worth. From tax collectors and beggars to adulterers, addicts, and the overlooked, Jesus looks past behavior and brokenness to offer compassion, forgiveness, and restoration. The poem invites believers to slow down and see others with the same grace-filled vision. When we view people through the eyes of Christ, we respond with love instead of condemnation and carry one another’s burdens as He commands. This poem is written by Dr. Eric Scalise, lead course developer of our Foundations of Care training program. It’s included in the Caregiver Training Manual as part of the video course on biblical caregiving. We hope this poem reminds you of how deeply God cares for each of us – and how He invites us to see others not with judgment, but with the eyes of Christ. “The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7) The Eyes of Christ by Dr. Eric Scalise The world saw only that Jesus was eating with tax gatherers and sinners … but Jesus saw people in need of the great physician. The world saw only a blind beggar named Bartimaeus, shouting above the crowd and disturbing those around Him … but Jesus saw a man reaching out in faith and in need of mercy. The world saw only a group of children, annoying the Master … but Jesus saw their innocent trust and a kingdom that belonged to such as these. The world saw only a crooked tax gatherer named Zacchaeus, becoming rich through the suffering of others … but Jesus saw a man ready to be broken with an act of repentance. The world saw only the crowds pressing in on Him from all sides … but Jesus sensed the touch of His garment by a trembling woman. The world saw only five loaves and two fish to feed so many … but Jesus saw a great multitude hungry and in need of compassion. The world saw only the woman caught in the very act of adultery and deserving condemnation … but Jesus saw a daughter in need of forgiveness. The world saw only a robber crucified as a common thief … but Jesus saw a lost soul worth dying for. The world sees only a man dying with AIDS and whispers that he probably deserves it … but Jesus sees someone who’s alone and afraid of dying. The world sees only the alcoholic, lost and groping in the darkness … but Jesus sees someone whose life can be restored. The world sees only the Christian leader who has stumbled badly and fallen before the eyes of so many … but Jesus sees someone who is worthy of His grace and help in time of need. The world sees only the prostitute standing on the corner … but Jesus sees a little girl who was sexually abused and desperate for a father’s love. The world sees only the rebellious teenager wanting to end his life … but Jesus sees someone who has never been accepted and starving for approval. The world sees only the color of someone’s skin … but Jesus sees a vessel fearfully and wonderfully made, created in the image of Almighty God. The world sees only the woman who is always anxious and depressed … but Jesus sees the single mom struggling to survive and needing the support and understanding of others. The world sees only the throwaways in prison, the crippled, the poor and the homeless … but Jesus sees precious souls that have yet to be invited to the banqueting table. How We Can Learn to See Like Jesus This poem invites every believer to slow down, look deeper, and see people the way Jesus does. When we view others through the eyes of Christ, we respond with grace, not judgment … with compassion, not condemnation. If you long to love others better and care more like Christ, our Foundations of Care video course can help. It’s a 10-session biblical caregiving training designed for individuals, churches, and ministry leaders. Whether you’re looking for a personal study or a group study option, these tools will help you meet the mental, emotional, and spiritual needs of those around you. “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” (Galatians 6:2) Learn More and Start Today: Foundations of Care – Self-Study Foundations of Care – Group Study You never know whose life might change, just because you chose to see them through the eyes of Christ.
Talking to Your Child about Grief, Loss, and Tragedy
Article Summary “Talking to Your Child about Grief, Loss, and Tragedy” provides practical, compassionate guidance for helping children process devastating events like the recent Texas floods that claimed many lives. Kids often lack the emotional tools to understand death, trauma, and loss, and parents must respond with age-appropriate honesty, clear language, patience, and ongoing availability. The article outlines key principles such as validating feelings, avoiding confusing phrases, offering reassurance, and watching for signs of complicated grief or trauma that may require professional help. Faith plays an essential role in healing, offering the promise of God’s presence, hope, and eternal life. Hope for the Heart offers Christ-centered resources to equip caregivers because in moments like these, hope truly means everything. By Eric Scalise, Ph.D. It’s been more than a week since devastating floods hit central Texas, resulting in the tragic loss of life – many of them children – and leaving more than 100 people still unaccounted for. The country has responded with prayers, coordinated rescue efforts, government resources, financial assistance, compassion, and care on many levels. Nevertheless, human nature is such that it tends to “move on” and return to the normal rhythms and routines of daily living. But that’s not the case for those directly impacted. Many are still waiting for news of their loved ones, clinging to a thread of hope. Others remain in shock – grasping for answers, attending memorial and funeral services, and wrestling with the trauma of overwhelming grief from the loss of life, property, and a sense of wellbeing. The story continues every day when they wake up in the morning. The most vulnerable among these are our children. As with other traumatic events, like school shootings, the Guadalupe River flood has created fear, anxiety, confusion, and grief. Depending on their age, many children may lack the emotional or cognitive tools needed to process what happened. Many lost close friends, siblings, trusted camp counselors, parents and other loved ones, as well as beloved pets. And they watched it happen in real time, though they may have been personally spared. Or they heard the news that their friend or loved one was not coming home. So what do you say to a child and how should we respond? As a licensed mental health clinician with 45 years of experience and hundreds of conversations just like this, here are some practical thoughts and tips that may be helpful. Be Age Appropriate – Keep in mind what a child has the capacity to understand and absorb. There is a difference between a four-year-old and a 14-year-old. Be more concrete with a younger child about death (e.g., the person’s body isn’t working anymore). Older children can more easily grasp the complexities of grief and loss. Be Honest – Appropriate transparency and vulnerability from you can be beneficial. Offer comfort and validate the child’s feelings. Children can pick up inconsistencies in what they are being told and are more tuned in and resilient than we realize sometimes. They often handle truth better than adults. Be Clear – Avoid ambiguous phrases that can be confusing such as, “Suzy is lost” or “Suzy has fallen asleep” or “Suzy has passed.” Explain in simple terms that “Suzy has died.” Death is a fact of life, and unfortunately, this will not be their only encounter with it. Be clear, but be gentle and compassionate in your explanation. Be Available – Children will likely have repeated questions and will need to process and reprocess their thoughts. This is true even for adults. So be present, and don’t tell them, “Everything is OK” when at the moment, it’s not. What matters most is helping children feel safe to ask questions, express their feelings, and know they’re not alone in what they’re experiencing. Be Patient – Feelings, even strong feelings like anger, sadness, anxiety, and fear, can be displayed. The younger a child, the less likely they are to talk through what’s going on inside them as they are to show it. Other forms of expression such as writing, drawing, and creative outlets can be helpful. Don’t minimize their feelings but validate them. Let the child know their emotions are normal, but don’t force them to express what they’re not ready to share. Grieving is a process, unique to each person and each event of a loss. Be Reassuring – Concerns over additional loss, another tragedy around the corner, or their own safety and wellbeing may be present and ongoing. Let them know they are loved, that you are there, and will continue to care for them. Be sensitive to touch – a hug can go a long way. Be Practical – Consider doing some tangible activities to help the child remember the person who died, such as looking at photos, sharing stories, or participating in memorial services or fundraising activities if appropriate. These kinds of activities can be healing, help release some of the grief, and restore a sense of control. Be Prepared – Some forms of grief linger and begin to interfere with other daily activities. Children sometimes become stuck in what’s called “complicated grief.” There can be signs of post-traumatic stress, nightmares, depression, or panic attacks. You may need to seek out a trained trauma-informed therapist or other mental health professional to assist in the short term. Most crises abate in 6-8 weeks, but not for all. The Place for Faith As Christ followers, we are not left without hope. Indee d, “We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure” (Hebrews 6:19). Research over the years consistently shows that faith matters, especially when tragedy strikes. Bring Jesus into the process with your children. Let them know heaven is real, that one day, God “will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain” (Revelation 21:4 NLT). That’s our hope. That’s His promise to us. Resources for You Here at Hope for the Heart, part of our mission is to bring Christ-centered resources into life’s difficult challenges, resources that offer biblical hope and practical help. Why? Because in times like this, hope means everything. Our Keys for Living Library addresses topics such as Anxiety, Fear, Grief, Death & Heaven, Hope, and more. We have also developed video-based training materials on Resilience and Trauma Care through our International Christian Coaching Institute. And remember, “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble” (Psalm 46:1). Hold on to that thought.