They’re all around us—the walking wounded. They come from all walks of life, all races, and all nationalities. Male and female ... young and old ... rich and poor … they’ve all been targets of someone else’s cruel drive for power and perverse self-indulgence. They bear the stigma of suffering ... but seldom can you see the marks....
. In many countries around the world, husbands and wives are taught—in church—that the wife’s acquiescence to physical, verbal, and emotional abuse is “God’s plan,” and they use Ephesians 5:22 to support their wicked thinking: “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands . . . .”
Remember in 2009 . . . images of the bloodied, swollen face of pop singer Rihanna? Remember the police reports of a violent encounter with her live-in boyfriend? This is just another gruesome glimpse of the painful reality for millions of women who live with an abusive partner. In the United States alone, about 1 in 3 women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime. Most people find it difficult to grasp these statistics. They wonder, Why does he do it? Why does she put up with it? Why doesn’t she just leave?
For almost 12 years I was in a marriage that was physically, verbally and emotionally abusive. There were times when my ex-husband would leave for weeks with our family car... He led me to believe that if anything ever happened or if I ever left, he would take the children. I didn’t know what to do.
"Should I submit to my husband -- even if it means enduring his abusive anger or physical violence?"