“He who brings trouble on his family will inherit only wind,
and the fool will be servant to the wise.” (Proverbs 11:29)
“He who fears the Lord has a secure fortress,
and for his children it will be a refuge.” (Proverbs 14:26)
Question:
“I grew up in a messed up family, and I am now repeating many patterns from the past. What should I do?”
Answer:
Identify which patterns need to be changed, then focus on several action steps that will enable you to move toward emotional health and healing. Tell the Lord and those closest to you that you want to give up unhealthy, childish patterns, and ask them to help hold you accountable.
“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me” (1 Corinthians 13:11). “Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching” (Proverbs 1:8).
Quick Reference Guide – Dysfunctional Family
“Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4).
More verses: 2 Peter 3:18; Philippians 3:13; Exodus 34:6